Memorial created 11-6-2016 by
CHRISTIANA NFANG EBAI
January 26 1926 - November 3 2016
This Online Memorial was created in loving memory of Mama Christiana Nfang Ebai nee Sona, whose life story is told throughout this memorial website.
PLEASE SIGN MAMA EBAI'S GUEST BOOK (to your left) and let us know you came to visit.
We will remember MAMA EBAI forever.
On behalf of the Samuel Mbo Sona family to all our Cousins, Nieces & Nephews.
When I must leave you for a while
Please do not grieve and shed wild tears
And hug your sorrow
To you through the years,
But start out bravely
With a gallant smile;
And for my sake
And in my name
Live on and of
All things the same,
Feed not your loneliness
On empty days,
But fill each waking hour
In useful ways,
Reach out your hand
In comfort and in cheer
And I in turn will comfort you
And hold you near;
And never, never
Be afraid to die,
For I am waiting
For you in the sky.
FUNERAL ARRANGEMENTS ARE AS FOLLOWS
FRIDAY JANUARY 20TH 2017
7PM: GATHERING AT THE FAMILY RESIDENCE IN NEW QUARTERS, KUMBA.
8PM: MASS, FOLLOWED BY WAKE KEEPING
SATURDAY JANUARY 21ST 2017
9AM: REMOVAL OF MORTAL REMAINS AT THE GOVERNMENT DIVISIONSL HOSPITAL MORTUARY, STATION, KUMBA
10AM: FILING PAST / VIEWING AT THE FAMILY RESIDENCE IN NEW QUARTERS.
1PM: FUNERAL MASS AT ST. JOHN'S PARISH KUMBA TOWN.
INTERMENT FOLLOWS THE FUNERAL MASS AT FAMILY RESIDENCE: FAMILY ONLY
RECEPTION AT PARKLANE HOTEL BUEA ROAD, KUMBA
HOPE SONA EBAI
GLADYS N EBAI
JUBILEE KATHY EBAI
VICTOR T. EBAI
PATIENCE NGONOBI EBAI eps WAAH
EBEN EBAI SAMUEL
TERRI DIBO EBAI eps NDUMU
My Mom and Me.
She told me I came out so fast I almost missed the basin of warm water the midwife was holding. I am not sure I was in a hurry to come out and solve anything, could very well have been the bicycle ride that they used to the health center. Humble beginnings from the daughter of a wealthy cocoa man – Bernard Sona.
I got the name after my dad had named the first two, my elder brothers of blessed memory and the choice was going to be Sona.
My mom taught me 2 things; to cook and to be humble- you have to be serious at what you do but it should not overwhelm you to the point where you don’t enjoy life and time with your friends. She was young, youthful and devoted to family, bringing us up as best they could with meager resources. Except for those who lived with us to attend school, as both parents were teachers, my mom did all that raising without house help. She took us to the “domestic science center” where she taught hundreds of young girls who used us to practice the art of baby care… bathing, powdering, diaper changing etc. I forgave her for that especially now that many of those young girls are no longer around.
She loved the stories of my adventures and travels and would laugh her heart out; I remember calling from Jericho when I was studying in Israel and she asked “Papa, is that really on earth”? My friends would soon become her kids as well and she would enjoy listening to what everybody wanted to become in the future.
Mom was generous to a fault, we would spend the better part of the Saturday baking bread for the week- that was my favorite, baking- not as easy as auntie Betty Croker has made it to be today. I am talking kneading, firewood ovens etc. and at the end of the day all those loaves were placed on a white table cloth and the torture would start ‘papa take this to Mrs. X, this to Y’ and when I reminded her Mrs. X or Y never sent us anything she would quote the ole “it is better to give than to receive”. Tough pill after hard work but I learned.
Ever forgiving: even after Nnoko Mbelle and Chu would ruin her Singer sewing machine stitching their “tana” Beatle trousers, she would send for Nnoko when the machine needed maintenance;
She would still apply the “aboki” to my neck even after warning me not to fetch/carry a jute bag of ‘monkey-kola’ from around Barombi Lake to sell; a business I started at 9 to enable me go to the movies on Sundays and buy novels.
Before women empowerment required attention she was at the forefront, working, bank account, managing the home and making decisions; she bought her Mobylette, to even go faster but that machine quickly became mine because I could go even faster than that.
Mother had strength, not just because she broke the 70, 80 and 90 year records with good health, she had that inner strength that would respect people but not fear them. She stayed away from trouble makers and rumor mongers and stayed to herself awaiting to burst into joy when the children, grandchildren and great grandchildren would come around.
I thank God that we gave her the chance to see all of them happy for her at her ninetieth birthday party, our friends her other children and she was truly happy.
So for mom who gave so much to me and so many others; my Kissinger when I ran into trouble with my dad, my confidant with whom there no boundaries to ‘jist’, my advisor who would say yes to music but school first.. I am Happy God has called you to REST.
I will miss you.
Mama My Confidant
In a few short months after her 90 birthday in January 2016, we witnessed how Mama’s health had deteriorated. But her spirit and determination was always there. On November 3, 2016 she found peace at last with her Creator, and that thought is what made me get through the experience of losing my mentor, my model, my mom.
Mama, you have always been there for me, I cannot believe when I last heard your voice. It feels like a bad dream, and every morning when I wake up I feel like picking up the phone and calling the house in Kumba to talk to you.
What can I say about you, Mama? You were a fantastic domestic science teacher, and you embraced your profession even in your personal relationship with all your children. You did not only teach us about school, but most importantly, you taught us about life. As a Domestic Science teacher, you impacted the lives of many women in both the Southwest and Northwest Province of Cameroon in a very special way. You were a loving mom, very selfless, prayerful, great sense of humor and above all the best cook ever.
Mama, you always assured me that I could be whoever I wanted to be. You were that special person I could really depend on and you were constantly supporting your children no matter if they wanted to climb the tallest mountain or build the biggest block tower. Mama, you were my rock and you are one special lady who will be missed by not only your children, but those who came to know you. Your determination and hard work served as a foundation for all your children’s successes. When we were growing up you made sure my siblings and I were always taken care of. You would sacrifice your own happiness for ours and was always ready to sacrifice your last dime for us, how selfless!!
You prayed for us every day, calling each of your Kids by name as you prayed. I can still hear your prayer as it echoed through the rooms and hallway of the house.
You were the best cook ever; I can still remember your koki. The special way you prepared your Koki, it always came out like a cake, it tasted really good. You taught your kids, grand kids and great grand kids and even your Caregivers how to cook. It is hard to believe that when I get to Kumba you won’t be there to welcome me with your special Koki.
You called me ‘Ma Ngon’ or ‘Mami Ngon.’ That was the pet name you called me all my life, I cannot believe I will never hear you calling me by that name anymore.
Mama, I miss you so much it hurts. It hurts when I think I can’t make the trip back home to bid my final good bye to you. Mama you know I dreaded this moment. We talked about it, prayed about it but at last it came sooner than expected. I am comforted in knowing that with God there are no surprises, so Mama as you take this peaceful journey to the other side, rest assured that we will meet again to part no more.
You traveled through this earth for almost 91 years and you have left behind wonderful memories. I remember our phone conversations, mother-daughter talk, yes I told you everything. I remember your laughs, your cries, your singing, etc. I remember the excitement you showed when I told you that J.J and I were getting married. You loved my husband J.J as a son and he had a special place in your heart, and as Mrs. Eben rightly puts it, “J.J go, J.J come”.
I remember your visits to Yaoundé, the two visits to the United States. They were all memorable when we look at all the pictures we took, we cannot stop crying but at the same time we remained grateful to God that you lived a full and good life.
You always told me that God had blessed me with a good husband and when we broke the news about our son baby J.J Jr. to you, you were more than happy for us. Thank God baby J.J Jr. was able to spend a week with you in Kumba. It was in the house in Kumba that he ate by himself for the very first time, what an honor!!.
Mama, I am quite sure that you are somewhere peaceful today, and probably laughing the brilliant way that you always did, with your hair piled on high, maybe making delicious koki and cracking jokes, just waiting for the day that we can reunite. Mama, thank you for all of your tireless effort to give me a good life, and for the absolute amazing memories. You were the best inspiration a young woman could have. Mama, the memories keep flowing as I write. It will probably take a lifetime, but thank God I have them to hang on to. I thank God for giving me a mom like you. We both had a great relationship and I do not have any regrets, I will always cherish those moments and because you did such a great job raising us. I know in my heart that we will be okay.
Mama, while you may be gone, you will always be in our hearts. Words cannot express how much you meant to me and the family. I know you are watching us and you are with us in spirit. There are so many memories with you that come to mind so it would be next to impossible for me to pick a favorite. I am certain, we will all celebrate the life of a great woman as we honor your memory today. Mama, continue to sleep in perfect peace until we meet again. May moonbeams continue to fill your heart, and light your eyes wherever you may be.
Mama, we were all lucky to have such a great mother, and even luckier that we were able to spend so much time with you on earth until the end of your life.
Mama, I know that as I write this, I can hear that you are listening to me; I can feel that you are comforting me, and I am certain that you are living in me. Mama, this is the one true memory you left that I will cherish, until we meet again.
Mama, finally, I will not stand on your grave and cry, because deep in my heart I know that you are not there and you did not die.
DEAR MUM, I CANNOT SEEM TO FIND THE WORDS THAT WILL ADEQUATELY DESCRIBE THE HURT AND EMPTINESS I FEEL AT THIS TIME. THE BIBLE SAYS, "A GOOD NAME IS BETTER THAN PRECIOUS OITNMENTS; AND THERE IS A DAY TO BE BORN AND A DAY TO DIE.
MAMA, I WISH YOU WELL IN THE LAND OF SEE ME NO MORE. YOU LOVED YOUR GRAND CHILDREN AND GREAT GRAND CHILDREN AND YOU ALWAYS WANTED THEM AROUND YOU. THANK YOU FOR MOLDING US TO BE STRONG AND COURAGEOUS MEN AND WOMEN.
IT IS SO HARD TO SAY GOODBYE TO YOU MAMA.. I ALWAYS LOVED TO SING YOUR "BEST SONG" - 'THEN SINGS MY SOUL MY SAVIOR GOD TO THEE." HOW GREAT THOU ART, HOW GREAT THOU ART...."
MAMA YOU WERE A GOOD MOTHER TO YOUR CHILDREN, GRAND CHILDREN AND GREAT GRAND CHILDREN.
ADIEU MAMA. WE WILL MISS YOU BUT GOD LOVES YOU MOST. REST IN PEACE.
FROM YOUR FIRST DAUGHTER.
GLADYS EBAI - USA
MAMA CHRISTIE NFANG EBAI
SATURDAY DECEMBER 10, 2016
WAKE KEEPING: 8 PM PROMPT
1626 SARATOGA COURT FORT WASHINGTON MD 20744
FOR GOD SAID, "HONOR YOUR FATHER & YOUR MOTHER", AND "ANYONE WHO CURSES THEIR FATHER OR MOTHER IS TO BE PUT TO DEATH." MATTHEW 15: 4
GLADYS EBAI (614)-625-2349
JJ & NGONOBI WAAH (413)-824-4017
DIBO EBAI-NDUMU (703)-599-5304
BAYENDE EBAI (614)-537-3963
EMMANU EBAI (360)-632-3600
WE HAVE LOST AN ICON
Mama, of all my Losses I have had, yours is the one I thought I will be a little prepared for. Your passing on is still so painful, emotional and monumental to me! We have lost our ICON!! I however find solace in the fact that you lived such a Blessed, Long and Accomplished Life. You've done your job and some!! Mission Accomplished!! You raised your children, some of your grandchildren and great grandchildren selflessly and with unconditional love. Always sacrificing for us!!! Thank you Mama!!!
Just growing up knowing that you are loved no matter what made me grounded and ready to take on life's challenges.
As we celebrated your 90th birthday together In January this year, it was obvious that you were still so coherent, energized, in control and had quite the determination to live. You even mentioned these in your eloquent speech that you intended to be around to celebrate your 100th birthday. The LOVE for your children and your zest for Life kept you going!! So I didn't have any reason to believe that was our last visit. I watched you with admiration how you've aged gracefully, beautifully, independently, energized and very aware of your surroundings..
We shared some real intimate moments whenever I came back home to visit with you and family. I spent most of my time with you at home in Kumba. Thank you for sharing your bedroom with me. We talked, ate, watched television and even argued sometimes. I took care of you even gave your meds. We were always protective of each other. We took an inventory of all your personal effects in your bedroom, Unfortunately, this last visit we didn't; Not sure why?? You insisted that we stay together, look out for each other and wished us well. It crossed my mind ...... what if?? Then I will say NO Mama is not going anywhere SHE LOVES US SO MUCH AND KNOWS HOW MUCH WE LOVE AND NEED HER AROUND.
You so often reminded me that I am your last child especially when I disagreed with any of your comments. "Terri.. listen" you would say. I will immediately change my perspective and be on the same page with you!
The values you instilled in us! Your sacrifices!
You thought me how to pray and lean unto our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. I will watch and hear you praying on your knees every night and early in the morning! You often invited me.
I still remember the lecture you and Papa gave me as I was preparing to travel abroad. Then the lecture when I brought Chris's remains for burial back home. You prayed and talked preparing me for the days ahead as a widow and mother. Your words rang in my ears as A.E and I walked into the house, cold as ice; just the TWO OF US!
MAMA, MY ROCK and MY EVERYTHING!!
IRREPLACEABLE AND UNCONDITIONAL LOVE!!
Then your health started dwindling when you fell in your bathroom, then off your wheelchair. But being the fighter that you are with poor medical infrastructure back home, you still recovered.
But when your DIGNITY WAS COMPROMISED, I KNEW MY MOM WILL NOT HANDLE IT WELL.
Big HUGS to PAPA, Bro PROMISE and Bro CHOU!!! PLEASE WATCH OVER US as ALWAYS!
PRAY YOU ARE RESTING IN GOD'S BOSSOM UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN, MAMA!!
THANK YOU IMMENSELY MY ONE and ONLY SWEET MOTHER!!!
LOVE AND MISS YOU SO MUCH. IT WILL NEVER BE THE SAME!!
A TRIBUTE TO THE BEST GRANDMOTHER I HAVE EVER KNOWN.
Mama Dibo;That's how you would call me,and ask; do you have a problem or did someone get you angry?because I have been observing you and I noticed you are cold and sad, you can tell me anything, come, sit with me and tell me. I will then tell you my problem and you will do everything you can to solve it. You will not rest until you have.
Your love was One of a Kind and Genuine too! You where always there for me.I love you so much Mama but God loves you more and He alone knows best!
Mama you have and will forever have a very special place in my heart.I miss you so much and though you have gone to rest in peace with our Heavenly Father, I know you are always with me.I love you!
Tribute to my Lovely Grand Mother
Mama the mama or Ma Nfang. That is how I used to call you. its so hard to accept that you are no more. I still see it as a night mare. You were not only a grand mum to me, you played the role of a mum and dad as well. Growing up with you made me to become, hard working, neat, intelligent and most of all a good cook. Yes you taught us that the kitchen has to be our first place .You taught us how to respect our values and never to settle for anything less and to know our worth. Yes you were a no nonsense lady. I am happy you taught us those values.
After having my first child, I named her after you because she was the first great grand kid and it was an honor for me to give her your name. Even when I grew up and left the house, when I always came with the kids for vacation, there was always joy and happiness all over you. you always wanted your grand kids around for vacation especially xmas. Then you will start crying when it was time for us to go back because you said you will be lonely but we always knew how to reassure you we will be back . You were my mirror, when I wanted to go out for a party, I will dress and first come and show you to confirm my dressing. At 90 you could still tell me which color to match my dress with or which bag to hold. you had so much taste and swag and I think I got that from you.
There were moments when I was sad and carried away by stress, you will quickly notice it and call me “mama Mbone, what is wrong, I notice you lost weight. Peace is what nobody should steal from you ok?”. Then when I start putting on more weight you will shout and ask me to go on a diet. I am happy I spent the past last two years with you back in kumba. I will not exchange those two years for anything on earth. You showed so much love to lexline. She felt protected and secured around you. Even when I shouted at her, she will run to you because she knew you will always defend her from me. She was so fun of you and still puts your name in prayers till today because she still knows you are alive.
Mama you lived a fulfilling life, it’s a blessing to see your children, grand children & great grand children. Wow you were blessed. I still remember that faithful day I was called that you just died, Jesus I was in the bank and everyone could notice the call was a bad one. Reaching the hospital and seeing your body not breathing was like a night mare. If I could wake you up that day, I could have done that. Yes death is so painful. You were 90 plus but I was still not ready. Still wanted you around to joke, play fight, make up and hug you.The most difficult thing I have ever done in my life was to carry your body into the ambulance with Bal. That was when I knew you were gone for real.
You may be gone but I know you are watching over us. I am and will greatly miss you.
Love you Small Mbone( Grand Daughter)
I love you so much. You are my friend and I always loved playing with you. I pray for you every day and I have even drawn a beautiful flower for you. I will keep it on the table in your room.
Your coucou, fulani girl
LEXLINE OKALA ABE
Great Grand Daughter
I am short of words because your death was so unexpected. Mama you were always there for me and you were one of the persons who made me understand what this life means and now I understand more because I have to be strong for those around me since you are gone.
Your absence has created a gap in my heart, but I just want you to know that you will always remain fresh in my memory and heart.
I have no right to question the author of our lives for taking you away from us but all I can beg him for is to please forgive whatever sin you have committed and I know that with this, He will surely take you into his heavenly kingdom.
Given by SHARON KACY NFANG EBAI
your First Great Grand Daughter
Tribute to My grand Mum.
I have lost my Role Model.
Mama I can't believe am writing this but I thank God for his grace will see us through. All my life from baby hood to a young lady now, u watch me grow and most especially u were always there for us. Mama u were the father I never had. U put me through as a young Lady on how to do lots of things for example marketing, cleaning, laundry just to name a few. I could remember when u will send me to the market to buy you plantains and when I come with withered plantains, u will send me back to return them even more than three times until I will buy strong, firm and healthy plantains as u will always want them to be.
Mama you also thought me how to do laundry. I could remembered when I was 13years and was taking my dresses to go and wash them you will take a chair and sit on the steps behind the house observing me how I wash. And when I rinse just once you will say "No Mama rinse them till the last water is the same as you carried it from the well to remove all the soap and your dresses will be brighter".
Mama thank you for all the good up bringing you gave me because it makes me to handle my home perfectly.
Mama I could remember when you use to advise me that the best inheritance to give a child is education. That with good education you can buy any property you want and will be great.
Mama you never joked with education and I'll always admired your high mathematics skills, when we are calculating the market list before I'll finish with the calculator you had already finished calculating without any calculator and a perfect eye sight. What an intelligent woman.
Mama I came for your 90th anniversary you were strong and very happy to see me. I never expected this to befall us. Even when you fell in your bathroom, I knew you would be OK because you are a fighter. I thank God for these last two months holidays I spent with you in kumba and how your health was improving until we were positive that you will get back to your feet again. You will always call to ask " mama Yolande wonna don chop? Chop dey house?" Mama you are a loving and caring person.
You are the best cook I've ever known, you will always say its not too much spices and maggi that makes the food to taste well. I'll always admire your cleaniness, intelligence, out spoken, prayerful and no nonsense personality. When ever I remember your song "oh Lord my God ....." Tears run down my eyes. I always pray this would have been a dream but God knows best.
When I told you we were leaving for Yaoundé, You said "weh mama you are living me alone?" and I told you we will be coming to spend Christmas with you. You asked me if am sure you will still be alive till December and I answered You will be in Jesus name, you answered Amen mama. I never knew it was my last time to see you.
Goodbye mama, it is so hard to tell you goodbye but I know you're with the Lord.You will forever remind in our hearts forever till we meet again to part no more.
Rest in perfect peace in
the Lord my sweet grand Mother
Yolande Ngonobi Ebai
My Great Grand Mum, How time flies.
Just some few months back that I came for holidays you where very happy and was always calling me Tessa instead of Feza.
Mama you always eat with me.When Tata Veronique gave you food you will call me "Tessa come and eat with me". I was happy because you will give me big chicken to eat.
You always call my brother Andel a very big Guest.
Mama my brother and I will miss you so so much. For the short time we have known you, you have showered us with love and you were friendly.
We love you Mama and we miss you
Your great grand daughter
Yolisa feza Njebe Mojoko Njie
A TRIBUTE TO MY GRANDMUM
MAMA, OH MY! WE DIDN'T REALLY SPEND A GREAT DEAL OF TIME TOGETHER BUT THE TIMES WE SPENT WERE ALWAYS REMAKABLE IN MY LIFE. YOU PREPARED ME FOR BOARDING SCHOOL - "MY TRUNK" - ONE IN THE WHOLE SAKER BAPTIST COLLEGE. FROM TOILETRIES TO SNACKS. INFACT WHEN DAD CAME IN WITH THE TRUNK, I KNEW I HAD A GRANNY INDEED.
EVERYTIME I CAME AROUND YOU WERE SO HAPPY TO SEE ME AND YOU WOULD CUDDLE ME AND LO AND BEHOLD YOU ALWAYS HAD A SPECIAL SURPRISE ON MY RETURN.
I REMEMBER THE LAST TIME WE SPOKE LENGTHLY ON THE VERANDA. YOU SHOWED ME YOUR HAND AND EXPLAINED HOW YOU USED TO HAVE PAIN EVEN ON YOUR FEET. AGAIN YOU SAW THE SURPRISE ON MY FACE WHEN THE ELDERS CAME TO PRAY WITH YOU FROM THE CATHOLIC CHURCH.
MAMA YOU GAVE ME HOPE BECAUSE I SAW MY DAD IN YOU WHENEVER WE MET. NOW YOU ARE GONE. FROM THE MOMENT I GOT THE NEWS OF YOUR DEPARTURE, I FELT EMPTINESS. NO DAD, NO GRANDMUM.
I WILL FOREVER REMEMBER OUR REMARKABLE MOMENTS. MY COUSINS ALWAYS SAY "MAMI GRAMMAR LIKE YOUR GRANDMA" WHEN I SPEAK ENGLISH.
ADIEU MAMA. I LOVE YOU.
TRIBUTE FROM YOUR GRAND DAUGHTER
Mama, how I miss ur cries ur laughters ur stories..Well everything u used to say n do.
The house in K'ba is so empty n calm since u're gone in Glory.
Milion THANKS for ur blessings, smiles n ur love.
Farewell Mama Christiana Nfang
Ur grand daughter, Mulowa Balako.
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